A few months ago I wrote about just how vital it is to prioritize your mental health after having a baby.In that post, I talked about the postpartum coping list I create with my patients. This list details coping strategies to use in different situations which involve different amounts of effort.Read More
There is no shortage of advice on what to do and what to get after having a baby. There are an infinite number of guides about what to register for, books on everything from nursing to sleep schedules, and consultants to help you navigate just about any baby related challenge. And yet, there is no simple guide to taking care of your mental health after having a baby.
Today marks World Maternal Mental Health Day. Started in 2016, World Maternal Mental Health day was started by an international team of clinicians, researchers, advocates, and survivors of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADS) to bring much-needed attention to maternal mental health.Read More
This week is national infertility awareness week, a week dedicated to raising awareness, challenging stigmas, and providing support to the millions of families impacted by infertility. Current estimates suggest around 1 in 8 and families in the United States have trouble conceiving or sustaining a pregnancy. This means that chances are you know several people who are experiencing infertility, or that you have experienced it yourself.Read More
Love is in the air. Valentine’s day is just around the corner, you’ve just had your postpartum checkup and your doctor or midwife has given you the all clear to resume sexual activity. Now what? Most likely, you received little to no information about having sex after having a baby. It’s no wonder so many of the moms I work with in my private practice are more anxious and apprehensive than excited about being cleared for sex.
Last month a collective round of applause was heard around the world when former First Lady Michelle Obama testified to what we all know to be true about work/life balance. As Mrs. Obama put it:
“That whole, so you can have it all, nope, not at the same time. That’s a lie. And it’s not always enough to lean in, because that s**t doesn’t work all the time.”
Are your nights stressing you out? Between lengthy commutes, meal prep, preparing your child’s things for school or daycare, and demands from work, most of us dread the chaos of weekday evenings. A number of my clients in my psychotherapy practice describe the “second shift” of coming home after work as a race to check items off a to-do list. Some describe a wish for their kids to just go to bed so they can get things done. All of them describe it as immensely stressful.Read More
You might crave donuts. You could start sleeping ridiculous hours. You could even feel lousy in summer. Psychologists share the things they wish you knew about seasonal affective disorder.Read More
For many women and families, pregnancy loss is a painful part of family building. We here at DC Moms Blog want to do our best to support families who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss. We hope the following information will support you or help you support a friend in coping with pregnancy and infant loss.Read More
October marks Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. This month honors the millions of families who have experienced loss through miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons, or infant death.Read More
We’ve all been there. The triggers are different but the experience of feeling like “a bad mom” is one most people can relate to. I hear this a lot from my patients and I’ve certainly struggled with that feeling myself. The problem is not the feeling. As a psychologist, I wholeheartedly believe in the importance of connecting with all of our feelings, including the painful and uncomfortable ones. Our feelings are informative and instructive.Read More
This fall my spirited daughter will head off to kindergarten. With the birthday cut-offs as they are in our area, she will be one of the youngest in her grade entering school at 4 years old. But this essay isn’t about that. Nor is it about whether or not to redshirt your kids. There are plenty of message boards and impassioned blog posts that do just that.Read More
Is summer travel with your kids stressing you out? There is no shortage of blog posts with great ideas to make traveling with your kids smoother. But have you ever thought about the impact of your own thinking on your travel stress?Read More
There is something uniquely beneficial about connecting with others who are simultaneously experiencing the role and identity shift that comes with parenting. Additionally, other moms can offer instrumental support, validation, gentle guidance, and connection in ways that are unique to these relationships. Whatever the reason, finding your tribe of other moms is crucial. So how do you make “mom friends” in a transitional city like Washington, D.C? Below are my 5 Tips.Read More
A few weeks ago on my blog, I spoke about the dip in marital satisfaction that 67% of married couples report after having a baby. There are many reasons why this happens. But in my opinion, the most common culprit is emotional labor.
Emotional labor refers to the invisible (and unpaid) work of caring for your feelings, as well as managing the feelings of others. It is the mental load of managing households. Being the one to remember important dates and appointments. Remembering birthdays. Ordering food before the fridge is empty. It is work that falls disproportionately on women’s shoulders.Read More
Every May, I find myself talking a lot about Mother’s Day in my therapy practice. For some Mother’s Day is a much-anticipated day of celebration and some well-deserved R&R, but for many, it’s an emotionally loaded day.Read More
Sleepless nights, pelvic floor pain, plugged milk ducts. We talk frequently about these and other effects of having a baby, but you don’t hear a lot about relationships. More specifically, many of my clients come to me in distress about the state of their marriage after having children. They feel irritated with their partners, are fighting more frequently, and are disconnected.Read More
In my last post, I laid out several of the problems with the current structure of maternity leave and flexible work policies in the United States, including the gender gap in earnings and the expectation that women will still be responsible for childcare and domestic tasks implicit in many leave policies. As I outlined, these policies don’t fix the problem and may actually make it worse.Read More